I was just thinking why we have stress sometimes in our lives. In fact all us have been stressed or felt stressful at least 1 time in our life. I was wondering what is it that causes this stress. And just like how Newton got his answer just like a flash, I got mine too. Eureka!! There you go, I am going to try explain in detail that tiny bit of flash that I had.
Looking back at my own stressful times, I understood that culprit was "Expectation". Let us say in bold - EXPECTATION CAUSES STRESS. For example- If i have a very important and life-changing interview, I feel this tension and stress mainly because i want to do well in the interview and don't want to fail. And this thought when it is repeated in my mind again and again it becomes stress or tension. So the fear of result or the outcome of the event causes the stress, that is because I expect a lot from myself. For most of us our childhood days were the most beautiful days of our life, that was because we had a care-free life and didn't have anything to worry about; there was this RELAXED attitude which really made us feel liberated or free.
Now, how can we get rid of this stress. Just by remembering these simple principles and making it a part of your life,
Looking back at my own stressful times, I understood that culprit was "Expectation". Let us say in bold - EXPECTATION CAUSES STRESS. For example- If i have a very important and life-changing interview, I feel this tension and stress mainly because i want to do well in the interview and don't want to fail. And this thought when it is repeated in my mind again and again it becomes stress or tension. So the fear of result or the outcome of the event causes the stress, that is because I expect a lot from myself. For most of us our childhood days were the most beautiful days of our life, that was because we had a care-free life and didn't have anything to worry about; there was this RELAXED attitude which really made us feel liberated or free.
Now, how can we get rid of this stress. Just by remembering these simple principles and making it a part of your life,
- Just do what has to be done. Accept the results whatever it may be. (Remember, failure means I will succeed one day. Nothing in life is so easily achievable)
- Be positive.
- Do not compare yourself with others. You are unique and this is what makes you special.
- If you have a difficult goal to achieve then keep intermediate goals to achieve the final goal. So, once the intermediate goals are achieved you feel confident. (For example - If I am going to give a tough exam, then one of my intermediate goal would be to study for an hour everyday.)
- How you achieve your goal is important as that is what builds your character - did you enjoy your journey to your goal or was it a stressful one that you forgot to enjoy every bit of it? So, ENJOY your journey.
- Last one, ALWAYS STAY CONTENDED but HAVE ASPIRATIONS. Stay contended, happy and grateful with what you have or what you are even though it is not what you aspire to be. Work towards your aspirations with happiness.
I am sure all of us will achieve our goals, so lets enjoy this journey towards the goal.
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